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There is so much talk about prenups nowadays. The first reaction
when it is mentioned by one of the parties getting married is, "Oh,
you don't trust me. You must not love me as much as you say you
do!" It has been the common misconception that prenups are
only for the rich and famous, but they are becoming much more common
with couples who are marrying for the second or third time and already
have some assets and/or children they want to protect.
Let's look at some famous couples who had prenups and then we'll
look at some guidelines.
In 1968, Jacqueline Kennedy and Aristotle Onassis signed a prenup
which would give her $3 million cash, $1 million in trust for each
of her children, and $200,000 per year after a divorce or his death.
Ari died in 1975.
In 1971, Mick Jagger divorced Bianca. According to their prenup
he paid her only $1.2 million.
In 1977, Donald Trump married Ivana. Their prenup said she will
get $25 million if and when they divorce. They separate in 1990
and Ivana sues for 50% of his assets - worth between $1.7 billion
and $4 billion. She claimed the prenup was void because of his affair
with Marla Maples. The court ruled in The Donald's favor and gave
Ivana $14 million, a Connecticut estate, and $350,000 a year in
In 1993, The Donald marries Marla Maples and she finally signs
a prenup two days before the wedding. They separate in 1997 just
before a clause making Maria's settlement larger would have taken
effect. They fight over this for two years and Marla finally agrees
to the original terms: $2 million plus expenses for their daughter.
Their divorce was final in 1999.
In 1994, Roseanne and Tom Arnold divorce after four years of marriage.
There was no prenup so according to the newspaper, Roseanne had
to pay Tom $50 million. In 1995 Roseanne married her former bodyguard
and chauffer. She insisted on a prenup. They filed for divorce in
As you talk to your divorcing clients, many of them will share
information about their new boyfriend/girlfriend and about their
wedding plans. Ask them if they have arranged for a prenup. Since
the divorce is fresh in their minds, they will probably be very
open to this idea.
What do you need to know about prenups?
1. There must be full disclosure.
Robert did not disclose several million dollars of assets because
he didn't want Nancy to get half of those assets in the case of
a divorce. Nancy found out about the assets and was so upset about
the lack of trust that their relationship disintegrated and they
finally ended up getting divorced. Nancy's lawyer was able tot get
the prenup overturned due to the non-disclosure of assets. What
Robert should have done was to put into the prenup that he in fact
did have those assets and they would remain his separate property,
no matter how they were title or co-mingled. He could have protected
himself in that way. Full disclosure also includes information about
2. Both parties should have legal advice.
When Kent and Karen were getting married, if he had insisted that
she sign the prenup without having it looked over by her lawyer,
this may make it possible for the prenup to be overturned. One lawyer
should not act for two people, since there is a conflict of interest
in advising them about their rights.
3. The prenup should be fair to both parties.
The Uniform Premarital Agreement Act (UPAA) of 1983 prohibits agreements
that are "unconscionable," for instance, if the terms
of the agreement leave one of the parties destitute. What's fair
at the signing should remain fair when the couple splits up, or
a judge may overturn the prenup. The UPAA also says that the agreement
must be in writing, signed by both parties, and witnessed.
4. There should be no coercion.
An example of coercion would be if one party says to the other,
"Sign this or we're not walking down the aisle tomorrow!"
The emotions around the wedding itself are often running too high
for a person to think clearly and someone might easily sign papers
just to be "nice and not cause any problems."
5. Prenuptial agreements hold up in court.
If all of the above issues are addressed, the prenup will hold up
in court. Therefore, couples can have it say just about anything
they want it to say. However, common sense must be used to avoid
language such as (this really happens!) they must have sex three
to five times a week, not leave anything on the floor overnight
and turn the lights off precisely at 11:30pm.
Who needs a prenup?
- If one party has significantly more assets that the other, a
prenup will preserve those assets for that part and his/her children.
- If one party has significant debt, the other party may end up
having to pay some of that debt if there is no prenup.
- Children from a prior marriage need to be protected.
- If one party owns a business, a prenup can prevent forced valuations
Let's end with a positive story: Michelle Andrews in Smart Money
(Sep 2001) tells about Jeff and Jackie who were planning to get
married. Jackie, age 40, had accumulated significant assets and
she told Jeff she wanted a prenuptial agreement. Hi reaction was,
"Why would we need it?" He didn't have as many assets
as Jackie and found the idea of a financial contract governing their
relationship off-putting. "I thought it would de-romanticize
our marriage." But Jackie was firm. They finally came to an
agreement and Jeff saw the practical side of the prenup. On the
remote chance that the marriage ends, it makes sense to have the
distribution as assets codified." He said they came to more
generous terms with each other as they settled on them in the glow
of love. After a year of marriage, Jeff says, "Having a prenup
hasn't changed a thing between us."